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Monday, March 20, 2017
One of the topics in our Fourth Step guide, the Blueprint for Progress, is self-worth. As I worked through this Step, taking a searching and fearless moral inventory of myself, I found that I have always judged my value on the basis of my accomplishments, or on what other people said about me. This meant I had to work all the time, or constantly make myself the center of attention. At best my sense of satisfaction was fleeting.
With Step Four, I realized that part of my self-worth can be based on my ability to love other people. Saying a kind word, writing a considerate note, or just taking time out from my other thoughts to appreciate another human being, it enriches my entire day. I have the power to feel good about myself, regardless of my achievements, whether or not other people validate my worthiness.
Today's Reminder
Let me look for appropriate opportunities to share my love with people around me. In this way I celebrate one of my most positive traits without expecting anything in return. Paying someone a compliment that comes from the heart, or thanking them sincerely for their kindness, may be the nicest thing I can do for myself today.
"It is difficult to make a man miserable while he feels worthy of himself and claims kindred to the great God who made him." Abraham Lincoln

It's difficult for me to wrap my head around why I want to be so accomplished.  I don't think it's for others though (even though that would make sense with my story).  I love this idea of building my self worth through giving to others, even when my accomplishments feel like not a lot. 


  1. Self-worth is based solely on the fact that we are children of God. Nothing we do or don't do changes that. I would rephrase the second highlight to say self-esteem (how we view ourselves) instead.